How deep is your love? Maybe that is a deep question. I think we all understand the term and meaning of the word deep. When we talk about the ocean is deep, we are referring to a measurement. We would ask, “How many feet or miles does the ocean go down?” We need a measuring stick to comprehend depth or height.
When it comes to the human body, it is a different story. You may be seven feet tall. From head to toe that is not very deep. Yet we try and measure the depth of love within us. How can such a small space within us contain “All” the love we claim to have for each other? Many have said, you cannot describe love or measure it. I disagree.
When someone feels love or expresses love they say, “I love you with all my heart. You are my heartbeat.” Why do people put their hand on their chest. Why do they place their hands over their heart when they say this? It is because they want to show the place where their life exist. It is the heart beat they feel.
We have a muscular organ inside out chest called the human heart. It is about the size of a fist. It has many chambers and pumps blood throughout arteries and veins within our body. Without this organ we will die. How deep in size is this organ? I think we could measure it in inches. If love exists only here in this organ, then we have a problem. This little bitty organ in our chest could not contain all our love or levels of love.
What about those people who do not have a heart? Modern techniques and surgery now allow doctors to do heart transplants. This removes the vital organ and replaces it with an artificial heart. One that is mechanical. When this surgery is performed, is their love removed also because they no longer have a heart? No.
We use a Metaphor to describe the feelings of love and associate our love by comparison. Where do we say we feel it? We talk about deep love, deep down inside me. Deep despair, deep pain and agony. Deep passion, deep affection. The greater your passion is, the more you feel it. My point is this. Deep love must exist somewhere else, other than the organ we call the heart.
What Is The Real Heart
The true heart of any man or woman is more than the vital organ. This heart is the core of our being. It is the Mind, the Will (Intentions) and the Emotions. This is also the place where our emotions and desires dwell. We are blessed with five senses (or organs), taste, touch, smell, hearing and sight. All of these senses are subject to stimuli. Love reaches way down to the very Spirit and Soul. To a new level, connected to the heart.
How do we perceive these senses and do they have anything to do with the deepness of love? When these senses are stimulated they have to be processed. It calls for a reaction from us. Let’s call it “Input and Output. Or we can call it “Internal and External.” These greatly affect the true heart, the mind, the will and the emotions.
Have you ever heard someone say, “Let’s take it to the next level?” I am going to go out on a limb and say, “I think the deepness of love is determined by what LEVEL you are at in the relationship. I do think we can gauge love with this. Or at least have a better understanding.
Here is an example of the next level and how we react within this progression. Boy meets girl. Level 1. They like each other. They talk on the phone. Later, they set up a date, they are together, level 2. They have moved from social to personal. Next, they develop feelings. They start sharing time together, kissing and hugging, level 3.
Now they decide they love each other and share sex, level 4. If they are told to stop or quit, they do not want to. They are not willing to progress downward. They have experienced level 4. They do not want to go back to the previous level. They will not be satisfied with just, talking on the phone, holding hands or hugging and kissing.
Each new level and progression stimulates the mind, will and emotions. It brings new joy and happiness they have never experienced. Call it a growth process or progression. It is all new and exciting. What happens if a boy dumps girl? The girl has to start again. Back on level 0. Without her choosing she has been forced to go back and start over.
Sometimes the level stops progressing, it does not grow. Many things can cause this. A trust issue, lack of commitment, or lack of communication. The level may stay the same or start to digress.
Feelings and emotions grow stronger at each level. Even hurt and pain is intensified (deep). In my example, her wants, needs, and desires are not being met. Is she now going back and start over with level 0? Meet someone, then talk on the phone only. Will she be satisfied with this? Most of the time, they immediately want to go back to the highest level that had been reached. A lower level will not give the same satisfaction she previously experienced.
I believe long lasting relationships move to different levels of intimacy. We talk about infatuation with someone. I would call this love, but it normally is not reciprocated. It does not move or grow into a deeper level.
Problems With Deep Love And Self Love
I want to talk about an important issue and problem, concerning deep love. The problem is “Self Love.” Too many people have the great desire for love. They have never learned how to love and respect themselves. They feel they are not beautiful, handsome, or attractive. They have low self esteem (the lack of self-love) and ask, Why would anyone want me?” They see no worthy qualities or values within themselves.
Self love is not ego or vanity. It is not, look at me, I am something. Healthy self love is internal, not external. Neither is it depending on someone else or external sources. Healthy self love does not depend on others to give you value and validate you. Self love is to discover the value and source of love that already exist within you.
Do not judge yourself by your lack of achievements. That fosters the attitude that I am worthless. That is not self love. You do not need another person to affirm your worth and value. If you cannot love yourself, then how can you love anyone else? How can you love your neighbor as yourself? I am not worth loving, I have failed.
Whether you know it or not, you reflect what is inside of you. How would you expect anyone to love you? The more love you give yourself, the more love you can give away. You cannot give away what you do not have.
How Deep Is God’s Love
In our society today a funny thing happens. When you mention the name of God or the Bible, people shut down and leave. I hope you are not one of those. I have something you may have never seen in print before, so stick with me.
Would you like to know why we have love? Would you like to know why we have a heart? It is because God is the originator and creator of love and the heart. There was no deep love or heart before God. Will it surprise you to find out that God has a heart? I am sure you have heard somewhere in your life that God Is Love.
(KJV Genesis 1:26) “And God said, Let us make man in our image, after our likeness: and let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over the cattle, and over all the earth, and over every creeping thing that creepeth upon the earth.” You have been made in the image and likeness of God.
In the “King James Version of the Bible”, The word HEART is used 830 times. It is described figuratively, and is not the organ that pumps blood. It denotes the mind, inner self (core), character, will (intentions) and emotions as the center of our very being. Why is that? Because that is the way God is.
God has emotions, desires, a will, a mind and his character. Just like you. You are the image of God and he created us this way. Maybe you never realized that until now. You have to say, “That is deep, or a whole other level.”
(KJV Acts 13:22) “And when he had removed him, he raised up unto them David to be their king; to whom also he gave their testimony, and said, I have found David the son of Jesse, a man after mine own heart, which shall fulfil all my will.”
(KJV I Samuel 2:35) “And I will raise me up a faithful priest, that shall do according to that which is in mine heart and in my mind: and I will build him a sure house; and he shall walk before mine anointed for ever.”
(KJV Jeremiah 3:15) “And I will give you pastors according to mine heart, which shall feed you with knowledge and understanding.”
(KJV Jeremiah 17:9-10) “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it? 10 I the Lord search the heart, I try the reins, even to give every man according to his ways, and according to the fruit of his doings.
(KJV Mark 7:20-23) Jesus said, 20 “And he said, That which cometh out of the man, that defileth the man. 21 For from within, out of the heart of men, proceed evil thoughts, adulteries, fornications, murders, 22 Thefts, covetousness, wickedness, deceit, lasciviousness, an evil eye, blasphemy, pride, foolishness: 23 All these evil things come from within, and defile the man.”
I will not list all 830 verses about the heart. God has a heart. God feels pain, joy, hurt and anger just like you. Jesus has a heart. He had a human heart also, that was pierced with a spear. A woman was in despair and said to me, “I wish God could understand the pain and agony I am in.” I told her, “He does, he has it also.”
718 times the word Love is mentioned in the Bible (NIV). Love and the Heart have been a constant theme throughout the Bible. So what does this mean? God wants what you want, love and intimacy. You were created for it.
I started this article by asking, “How Deep Is Your Love?” To understand deep we have to have a measurement. I used the word LEVEL to try and answer that question. It could also be called levels of growth. Love with passion and emotions can only be experienced within us. The greater the passion the deeper level you feel it.
I hope this article will be valuable to you. I hope you will understand better, what is the REAL HEART. It is our total being, our essence, our source. It is our mind, will and emotions. It includes our character and all that we are.
Here is a deep thought for you. God created us just like Him. God wants us to be like Him. Some will desire it and some will not. He even gave us that choice, we call it free will. He gave us all the tools we need to reach His Level for relationship and fellowship. This applies in our human relationships also.
I believe within our real heart, there are different level’s or degrees that can be reached. New and exciting things take place. Things so wonderful, we cannot describe them. Feelings that are better felt than told. This is where deepness of love takes place at different levels.
We were made and created for love and intimacy. What a great gift we have been given. I hope you have come to understand that God’s heart and love is out of this world. It is a level we can achieve. How deep is your love?
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