The Look Of Love, what does it look like? I have to ask, “Is the look toward you or away from you? Is someone looking at you or are you looking at someone?” Is this look real or fake? I often look at people just to see if I know them or recognize them. Looking at someone can be cordial or just friendly.
How do you measure a look? What comparison do we make? Can you calculate what it looks like and determine if it is a look of love? Obviously it will involve the eyes and the senses. What do you see, a smile, a laugh, a glow from the other person? Is this the look of physical attraction or invitation? You must see something.
Does Hollywood Have The Real Look Of Love
I am glad I am not in the dating scene. Dating and relationships today are so deceiving. Everyone looks at appearance and makes a determination. Take for example, the movie stars at the “Emmy Awards” or the “Academy Awards.” They are all standing on the red carpet, dressed in their finest. They are holding hands or have their arms around each other
These stars are smiling or laughing, giving the beautiful smiles while their pictures are being taken. They pose like models or rock stars. Is this the glamour of love? Is this what love really looks like? Yet so many desire this. Is this the look of success and love? Appearances are deceiving. Who does not smile at the camera?
You see the actors and actresses who date, marry, then become the power couple of Hollywood. They have it all, the total package. They have the beauty and success to back it up. Surely they portray or display the look of love. In reality, they are just as human and insecure as the rest of us. Many look in the mirror and do not like what they see. They date, marry, separate, divorce and remarry like anyone else.
The Look Of Developing Relationships
Dating, courtships and relationships are hard to develop. It does involve sight and appearance, but there must be communication. There is verbal and nonverbal communication. I have read, a woman can look at a man and know in 2 seconds if she is interested in him. Physical appearance does affect attraction. This holds true for women and men.
They may be too short, too tall, too fat, too ugly, too bald or too loud. They just don’t have the look. Opinions are quickly formed. People do interact more with those they like and find attractive.
Women are more complex and it is harder for a man to read a woman. You can’t see inside someone so there must be some visible signs. Eye contact seems to be one factor that helps determine his or her interest. Men and women both send out signals that show interest or attraction. Men and women know what they like when they see it (There Hot).
Mixed signals in nonverbal communication can easily be misinterpreted. A man may approach a woman who is not interested in him. Too many have suffered embarrassment and humiliation because they got the wrong signal. Men, especially, try to read signals and think they know what a woman wants or needs. This holds true even in marriage.
In communicating and starting a successful relationship, you look for someone who is compatible with you. Someone who has like goals and values as yours. The same intelligence or background. Family, work and future goals are other factors. How similar they are and what you have in common. Do you both like the same things and what is important to you.
With serious relationships, romance and sex are a large part. Men and women view sex differently. I once heard this saying. Women need a REASON for sex. Men only need a PLACE to have it. But, it is still sharing.
Men and women want acceptance, trust, security, respect and affection. Both need to know and feel they are loved and important. Each needs to feel special. In loving relationships it will be a challenge to understand the differences and meet each others needs and desires. Love is still the motivating factor.
There is a big difference in how men and women see love, romance and intimacy. Men are more physical while women are more emotional. Men see intimacy as doing things together. Women see intimacy as, one on one and face to face. Women want that close emotional attachment and sharing of feelings. This is the heart to heart relationship women want. This is the look of love they want. This is what is most attractive.
What Does Love Look Like
I see love in different forms and on a different scale. All love does not look the same. I believe the real look of love involves action and demonstration. It will portray dedication and commitment. You cannot separate love and life. Love means something, that means we should live for something as well. Is there beauty in the look of love?
As Margaret Wolfe Hungerford said, “Beauty lies in the eye of the beholder.”
Saint Augustine said, “What does love look like? It has the hands to help others. It has the feet to hasten to the poor and needy. It has eyes to see misery and want. It has the ears to hear the sighs and sorrows of men. That is what love looks like.”
Love looks like Mother Teresa of Calcutta. A Catholic Nun who was a missionary. She spent most of her life in India. Wikipedia, The Free Encyclopedia says, “Mother Teresa founded the Missionaries of Charity, a Roman Catholic religious congregation, which in 2012 consisted of over 4,500 sisters and is active in 133 countries.”
“They run hospices and homes for people with HIV/AIDS, leprosy and tuberculosis; soup kitchens; dispensaries and mobile clinics; children’s and family counselling programs; orphanages; and schools. Members must adhere to the vows of chastity, poverty and obedience as well as a fourth vow, to give “wholehearted free service to the poorest of the poor.”
Love looks like those on the mission field who have committed their lives to helping orphaned children. Those who no one wants. Children who lost parents and families to Ebola and other dread diseases.
Love looks like the many humanitarian organizations that endeavor to feed the hungry around the world. Allafrica.com says,”Knowing 800 million people globally who go to bed hungry every night.” Battling famine and starvation. The agencies who help and supply what is needed with earthquakes and natural disasters.
Painful love looks like the flagged draped coffins of a fallen soldiers coming home. Those whose love of freedom and country cost them their lives. They sacrificed all to defend their land, homes society and families. Their motivation was love.
Love looks like the nurses and caregivers who work in Childrens Hospitals. Those who are giving love and care to terminally ill children. Those who give care to the Mentally Retarded, disabled and nursing homes.
Love looks like the elderly man and woman who have been married for 50 years and still hold hands and kiss.
Love looks like the first glimpse of a newborn baby. A woman named Mandi Nowak said, “If you are a mother then you know the feeling of true love. Once you look into the eyes of your children you feel the love that could never be shared with another.”
Love looks like a dedicated teacher standing in a classroom day after day. Making a difference in the lives of their pupils. Preparing them for life.
Love looks like the friend who stands with you in your darkest times, when everyone else walked away.
Love looks like the faithfulness of a dog or cat (or pet). How could I leave this one out. The animal who is always waiting to snuggle and give attention and affection. I have heard so many say, “My dog loves me when no one else does.” Why do you think so many elderly people have pets? They are not alone. Scientists are telling us, staring into the eyes of a pet creates a strong bond. How much more do we humans need this from each other?
Love looks like a man suffering and dying on a cruel cross for his enemies. Paying the price for sin, yet returning eternal life. This is love on display. (KJV John 15:13). “Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.”
Too a fake or fraud, appearance is everything. They pretend at love in order to get what they want. Too many relationships suffer because of this and damage is done. All love does not look the same, but it produces different consequences and effects. You cannot truly love without giving.
I believe the look of love comes from inside. It does show on the outside, but it is produced from a real heart of love. What a joy it is to see the look and effects in so many different ways. How does it look to you? Do you have it?
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